Yesterday, my pastor spoke on the topic of Love. 

 It was just what I needed. While those who know me know I have never had a boyfriend or been in love. I am perfectly okay with that though. I would rather not. Dating is to find the perfect one for you to be with FOREVER. Not just to have one. Yeah, it gets hard at times. You start doubting when everyone around you is getting married. Its worth it to me though because I want Love like God meant it to be. The kind of love my pastor spoke of yesterday. 

I see tons of people my age and much younger that I just wish they would understand this. Being alone is better than being with someone who doesn’t TRULY love you. ALL of you. Don’t fool yourselves. Being in a good relationship that doesn’t work out is one thing… being in one that is clearly wrong just because is a whole nother. 

I have had amazing examples of this love in my life and for that I am thankful. If I didn’t then I probably would be just like those other people. I have seen this true love though. No one could ever convince me it didn’t exist. 

Love is both Tender and Terrible. 

Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’   – Erich Fromm

Love is exclusive. When you truly love someone as God intended there will be NO others. You belong to them and they belong to you. You will do anything for that person and they for you. They would do nothing to hurt you. 

Love is a heart connection. You will work to make a connection of heart. Not just coexisting but you will work to please each other. You will get into each others interests and support each other in them. 

Love is action. Not just saying the words but doing them. Do something nice for them. Compliment them. Support Them. Trust them. Love them. 

Love is also terrible. It is as strong as death. As soon as you fall into it only death can stop it. Not without a great deal of heart ache and pain anyways. It is cruel in jealousy. True lovers will never make each other jealous as the power of and destruction of jealousy can never be stopped. Once the fire of love is started it cannot be quenched. 
Love is not buyable. You can’t buy things or people. A nice treat is good here or there but there is no amount of money that can buy love. It has to be earned and worked for. Love is not something you buy it is something you give. 

Love has the power to build or break you, it all depends how you use it. 

So I choose to wait. Wait for the perfect one for me. Wait for God’s kind of love not the worlds love. 

 If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.

If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.

3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

8-10 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

11 When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

12 We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

13 But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

 1 Corinthians 13 – The Message