We all know that Hollywood/Music industry is obsessed with the idea of “love”. They make movie after movie and song after song about love and all its highs and lows. Don’t get me wrong. I love it. I have no shame in saying I adore chick flicks and sappy love songs. Not that I have personal experience but I just love the idea of it.
“If they substituted the word ‘Lust’ for ‘Love’ in the popular songs it would come nearer the truth.”
– Sylvia Plath
I found the above quote and found it to be very true. Love is sacred. Its a word used much to often and much to quickly nowadays. Many don’t even understand true love. Mostly, because of the songs and movies we are surrounded by. Crazy stories of dashing men sweeping girls off their feet and “perfect” love. When really… its Lust. Lust does not last.
Let me tell you. Love is not perfect. Love is loving someone even when you are mad at them. Its sticking by someone after they hurt you. Its fighting and making up.
“I gave her my heart but she wanted my soul…” – Bob Dylan
Its giving someone more than the surface. Its not just how you feel at the start. Its how you feel 10, 50, or 100 years later. After waking up next to them every morning and seeing them when they are grumpy or sick. Its sharing your space and time with them.
“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up”. – James A. Baldwin
Don’t get me wrong. Love is bliss. Its the best thing in the world. It makes you complete. Its not easy bliss though. Its something you work for. There are plenty of great love stories. There is lots of people who do crazy things and “get the girl” like in the movies. The question is… what happens after that? What happens in “happily ever after”?
“And they…LIVED! Life isn’t always ‘Happily Ever After’, rather, loving FOREVER, regardless.”
― Carmen DeSousa
So wait. Don’t settle and rush your love. Don’t fall into the trap of “hollywood love”. How you think life should be. Learn about what true love is not the love you read/hear about. Learn to love being single. Learn HOW to love the right way. Don’t settle for whats in front of you and “speaking the words”. Go for who is showing you love. True love that will work itself into your life when you let it.
“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.” – Mandy Hale
So start enjoying real love. Not what might be. What you think it should be. Or what you want. Love through all the hurt and all the good. Love the real kind of love. Not the hollywood kind.
“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.” – Jodi Picoult