“Write hard and clear about what hurts.” – Ermest Hemingway
How many times have you heard someone say “Be happy you are single!” Or “Be content the right one will come along”? If you are like me that number is a lot.
Now, I am not saying either of those things aren’t true. Or can’t be. There are times in life when it is true and I agree 100%.
However, this post is about the times when it’s not. The times when it physically hurts because you feel hopeless and lonely.
Don’t get me wrong, You will always have people there in your life. I KNOW there is a whole bunch of people who love me, care about me, and are there for me. None of that is the same as having your “other half” though.
When you feel unwanted by anyone in that way though. It’s honestly depressing, I have gone 22 years of life without even dating one single guy. I don’t even know if any guy has ever liked me like that. Some days, I am okay with that, I can wait for “the one”.
I am here to say, it’s okay to have days to be upset about it too though. I have days where it hurts to be around anyone else because they have that. I know it’s not all “rainbows and butterflies”. It IS a type of love we were made to enjoy though that I have never experienced.
The reason it’s okay to be sad? Because if we felt happy being single all the time we would never have the love for another person we should. It’s a healthy longing not a sad obsession. Or so it should be.
I have days where I spend all day praying to God he sends the one for me. Some days I beg him to send him that day. I know, all in his time he will send the person for me. Those sad days though, it’s okay to pray hard for him. You just have to learn to pray the right things. To long for him (or her if that’s the case!) in a way that trusts God’s timing but also keeps your heart moving towards happiness.
It’s not okay to always be sad. Sometimes though, it’s okay to take a day or two and be sad and long for it more. Without loneliness we would not know love.
So instead of being happy all the time in single life. Be content in Gods plan and long (sometimes in sadness too) for the one who your soul loves even if you don’t know them yet! Turn all your focus on God and he will make the plan clear to you. There is a plan for your life, but you can be sad too.
I do think the more you look to God, the fewer “sad” days you will have. He will give you the strength, direction, and help to make it through them easier. It’s still okay though.,
“But those who hope in The Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31